When aligned with my heart, I see the world with boundless love, and also many situations with a wild humor. I may cry freely, and that needn’t be anyone else’s concern. It is only water. And also I may laugh with abandon when my heart knows it is kind to do so. Love to me means seeing many angles of a person or a situation, and acting with kindness from that awareness.
My wisdom is evolving and springs from listening. Hearing my own heart, my own body, the words of others – whether kind or speaking a hard truth, which can also be kind. To bring wisdom to this work to me means that I come to see and hear and feel and touch who and what is there, while also remaining grounded in myself, in the earth, and in spirit.
I come to this work with knowledge related to “how.” How to complete relevant paperwork, how to plan for death, and how to listen. This was taught to me by precious mentors. This knowledge has limits and I commit to gaining additional insights and support from my peers and network where my knowledge is insufficient for the situation.
With Natural Law
Natural law states that everything living, also dies. This can be observed in a vegetable garden as well as in our own bodies. Natural law for humans states that we are made to be in community, and caring for one another, and honoring our dead. Anthropologists sometimes define the beginning of humanity as when we can tell that humans were buried with flowers in their graves. I see this work as a return to natural law when we hear it whispering, and where it has been forgotten.
There is a tarot card showing a woman with her hand on a lion, and this card is called Strength. Gentleness and suppleness, when authentic and not fawning, requires true strength. There is another version of that card that shows tiny hands touching with curiosity, the enormous teeth of a lion, which are closing in on the frame. This too is the strength needed to be in community with those that are dying. Can we get close, so close, to that which can appear frightening, close enough and curious enough so that fear, wherever it arises in the room, can melt into love.